An oxymoron ~~ A civil divorce

Things are swimming along in the "so far, so good" category as far as the divorce is going. Thursday morning we attended our court ordered "Parenting through Transition" classes.  We were the only couple there and without a doubt the oldest people there.

Bill is moving out in 4 days.  He spent this weekend working around the house.  His list of accomplishments was impressive:

• He installed a light in what is now my living room, but will be a dining room. He agreed to do this before we moved in over 15 years ago. It is now done and the room is much brighter!
• He brought the electrical outlets flush with the wall, because they were recessed when I put bead board on the dining room walls 10 years ago.  He was supposed to do it in August, 2002.
• He ran a line under the house from the kitchen to my bedroom so I can have internet access in the bedroom. That was cold, icky work.
• He replaced some shelving in the pantry that was sagging.
• He dug a trench away from the house on one corner where we have a drainage problem.
• He cleaned and repaired the gutters.
• He installed a new light in the laundry room.
• He took out the old and installed a new dryer (mine died yesterday).
• He checked all the fluids in the vehicles I'm keeping and serviced them.

Not a bad weekend's work. We still went to church today and he managed to watch a few football games.

So there are those people who say, "That just shows how much he cares about you."  Really?  It was very helpful and much appreciated, but why did I have to wait 15 years for a light that took less than an hour for him to install?

The cynical part of me thinks it is a clear demonstration of just how "checked out" he was of our family -- and he wants to leave with the knowledge that we are good to go.

Still, whatever the reason, I am very happy to have all of that done.  Those things will make my life easier as I start this journey of being a single mom again.